I tightened the non drive side double nut, the drive side only has the one nut that holds the bearings, so I just tightened that one a bit.. should it be really tight?
Well, not being there to actually get a look at your wheel, I can't say FOR SURE how yours should be, but in my experience, there's generally at least two parts on each side of the axle(whether that's two nuts plus the bearing cup, or the bearing cup & one nut to tighten against that cup). You generally get the two items quite tight on one side, by using two wrenches, and turn them in opposite directions, in order to tighten one against the other, so the the bearing cup and the nut(s) can't move. You then get the bearing cup on the opposite side up against the bearings, and do the same with the two items on that side. The trick is(and this is almost as finicky as dealing with spokes), to get the bearing cup tightened in the correct spot so that there's no "play" in the wheel on the axle, but also loose enough so that the wheel spins freely..... this usually takes me several tries to get it into that "sweet spot". I hope that was clear enough..... it's just so your bearings are in the correct place and can't automatically tighten up while you're riding(MAYBE that's what happened before - the bearing cups & nuts MIGHT NOT have been properly tightened on one side, and riding may have tightened the cup up against the bearings).
Yeah, now biking will be alot easier thats for sure.. im gonna start to put on pounds haha!
Just take a route that's twice as long!
I think ill have to take that shifter apart and clean it as the screws dont seem to have much effect.
WD40 on the derailleur, and sometimes at certain spots along the cable(where it might be binding), or even inside the cable sheath(if you have any) might help too.